Female Sexuality

FemaleSexualityWomen’s sexual health, like men’s, is important to overall emotional and physical well-being. Achieving a healthy and satisfying sex life doesn’t happen by magic, it is learned over time. It takes candid communication and self-reflection. Although talking about sexuality can be difficult, it’s a topic well worth addressing for the promotion of sexual enjoyment.

Sex starts with physical desire, which leads to arousal and then orgasm. Although this may be true for men, research suggests that women’s sexual responses may be more complex. For many women, physical desire is not always the starting point. A woman may be motivated to have sex to feel close to her partner or to show her feelings. One of the most fundamental complaints for women is the lack of emotional connection through verbal communication and intimacy.

Women’s and men’s sexual fulfillment may differ substantially, in fact even among women in lesbian relationships. For example, some women say the pleasure of arousal is sufficient, while others want to experience orgasm. If you have concerns about your sex life, or you just want to find ways to enhance it, a good first step is talking with your partner. For further assistance couples counselling and sex therapy can help. You may feel embarrassed to talk about your sexual experiences and desires; however, your partner can’t read your mind. Sharing your thoughts and expectations about your sexual experiences can bring you closer together and help you experience greater sexual enjoyment. To get started you may wish to make an appointment with Raelene who can help the process with establishing good communication skills, it may be all that is required.


Persistent, recurrent problems with sexual response or desire — that distress you or strain your relationship with your partner — are known medically as female sexual dysfunction.

Many women experience problems with sexual function at some point in their lives. Female sexual dysfunction can occur at all stages of life, and it may be ongoing or happen only once in a while.

You may experience more than one type of female sexual dysfunction. Types include:

  • Low sexual desire
    You have diminished libido, or lack of sex drive.
  • Sexual arousal disorder
    Your desire for sex might be intact, but you have difficulty or are unable to become aroused or maintain arousal during sexual activity.
  • Orgasmic disorder
    You have persistent or recurrent difficulty in achieving orgasm after sufficient sexual arousal and ongoing stimulation.
  • Sexual pain disorder
    You have pain associated with sexual stimulation or vaginal contact.

Sexual response involves a complex interaction of physiology, emotions, experiences, beliefs, lifestyle and relationships. Disruption of any of these components can affect sexual drive, arousal or satisfaction. Fortunately, female sexual dysfunction is treatable.

If you wish to make an appointment please contact Raelene Stokes info@sexualhealthrelationshipswa.com.au.

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