Mismatched Libidos

When in a relationship Miss Matched Libidos may be called – HSDD ( Hyperactive Sexual Desire Disorder).
When in a relationship one partner may feel there is something wrong with their level of desire, because it differs greatly from their partner’s level of desire/libido.

This does not necessarily mean that one partner has Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder, or that one might be oversexed. Many relationships struggle with two people having different levels of desire. However it can cause distress in the relationship, it may lead to resentment, feelings of rejection and it may cause difficulties in sustaining a mutually satisfying relationship.

Definition of Miss Matched Libido

MismatchedLibidoThis is defined as a difference between two partners in their level of sexual desire. One partner typically places more demands on the other, causing that person to feel smothered by the other and unable to meet consistent demands for sex. This can cause personal and interpersonal distress and result in relationship difficulties and/or dissatisfaction.and may have a negative impact around sexuality for the one who has less desire.

Treatment/Management of Miss Matched Libido

When no causative medical disorder is found, individual or couples therapy is often recommended.
Sex therapy/counselling may include some of the following:

  • Psychoeducation
  • Anxiety reduction/desensitization
  • Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)
  • Addressing fears, conflict and anger
  • Enhancing communication
  • Promoting sexual intimacy
  • Behavioural exercises

Sexual Health Relationships WA is a confidential counselling service, specialised in sexual health and relationship issues. We offer individual and/or couple’s counselling.

If you would like counselling to assist you through this passage please email Raelene info@sexualhealthrelationshipswa.com.au.

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