SeparationDivorceA relationship begins to fail when it becomes less rewarding than it was. Couples either respond to deterioration in active or passive ways. Meaning the response includes doing something that may enhance the relationship (working to improve communication, discussing differences or seeking professional help) or merely waiting for something to happen, doing little or nothing.

People can sit back and wait for the relationship to improve on its own (rarely does it) or for the relationship to deteriorate to the point where it ends (“Well, these things happen”).

Divorce is usually connected with financial and emotional problems. When a household splits, the resources often cannot maintain the earlier standard of living for each partner.

My wife and I were considering a divorce, but after pricing lawyers we decided to by a new car instead. – Henny Youngman

Divorce can also prompt feelings of failure as a spouse and parent, loneliness and uncertainty about the future, and depression. Married people appear to be better able to cope with the stresses and strains of life, perhaps because they can lend each other emotional support. Separated people have the highest rates of physical and mental illness. On the other hand, divorce may permit personal growth and renewal an opportunity to take stock of oneself and establish a new, more rewarding life.

Despite the difficulties in adjustment, most divorced people eventually bounce back Most remarry. Because of the high incidence of divorce and remarriage, the stepfamily is becoming a more common family unit. Among remarriages that survive, the level of personal happiness in family members can be as high as it was in the original marriages.

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